When you and your date have a similar interest, write it down. Use that for inspiration. You may both love Spongebob, so bring along a silly Spongebob trinket. Or, use an inside joke for inspiration. Maybe you two have texted about always having bad hair on first dates. Bring along a comb to make your date laugh. If you’re feeling lost, bring a gift that’s thoughtful but less specific. For instance, gift a bookmark for a big reader or a small chocolate for a dessert enthusiast. Avoid overly sexual or expensive gifts, like lingerie or jewelry.
Show up in an outfit that makes you feel amazing. Remember, it’s better to be overdressed than underdressed. Hold direct eye contact with your date. [10] X Expert Source Lisa ShieldDating Coach Expert Interview. 13 December 2018. Stand up straight. Avoid fidgeting if you can and use hand gestures while you speak. Speak slowly and clearly. If the conversation lags—don’t stress. It happens. When there’s a gap, offer your date a thoughtful question.
Ask a question that can help you two connect: “Is there anything that you really want to learn this year? Or something you want to improve on?” Show signs of active listening to encourage your date to open up. Nod your head when they speak, ask clarifying questions, and validate their feelings. Try to be present. You’re just two people enjoying getting to know each other. If you’re facing stressful thoughts, take a breath and try to refocus. Prioritize making your date feel comfortable. This gives you the best shot at creating an amazing connection.
