In general, you might want to text for 1 to 2 days before asking her to meet up in person. Send her a flirty-yet-casual opener, like “Hey, it’s Josh! So glad I could grab your number. What are you up to this week?”
If it’s your first time texting a girl you like, say something like, “Hey, it’s Jason! So glad I finally got your number. ”
Instead of a simple “Hey,” try referencing something fun that happened on the date. For instance, if you both ate a little too much last night, you might say, “I can’t believe I’m still full this morning, but I guess eating 2 plates of pasta will do that to you. ”
“Hey, I was thinking of seeing that new Marvel movie on Saturday. Want to join me?” “Are you free this weekend? I’d love to take you out to dinner on Friday. ”
It might sound strange to limit your messages, but texting too much can actually be detrimental for budding relationships.
“If I were to take you on a date, where would you want to go?” “Pineapple on pizza: yes or no?”
“I saw that Tame Impala was touring! We should totally get tickets when they come to town. ” “Just remembered how bad I fumbled the name of that wine when ordering last week. I need to brush up on my French. ”
“Cats or dogs?” “Is a hot dog a sandwich?” “What’s the best country you’ve ever traveled to?”
If her not responding becomes a pattern, though, it might be a hint that she’s not interested. Don’t take it personally, and just move on to someone else.
How often you two see each other is totally up to you two, but in general, try to aim for about once a week.
