Don’t wait until moments before you do the deed. You may end up having a super hasty chat. Instead, set aside time for a thorough, thoughtful talk. If you don’t feel ready to talk about protection, then you might not be ready to have sex. If you’re unsure, talk to a friend or family member you trust. When you do decide that you’re ready to get intimate, your own health and safety should be a top priority.
Engage him in the conversation: “Hey, speaking of sex, we should chat about protection. Do you have any thoughts on that? What are your preferences?” Fill him in on what you’re thinking: “I have an IUD. It helps prevent pregnancy but not STDs. So, I think we should use condoms. ” Boom! That’s all there is to it. There’s more to discuss, but you’ve just successfully kicked off the birth-control convo.
Talk about STIs and be open if you have any. Will you two want to get tested before you hook up? Discuss birth control. How reliable is your method? Are you comfortable staying on birth control as long as you two are having sex? Chat about condoms. Birth control can only take your protection so far. Will you two agree to use condoms whenever you have sex? Decide on a backup plan if your birth control method fails. Will you want to take the morning-after pill? If so, who’s paying for it?
If he’s not a fan of condoms, try special brands that increase pleasure (but if he says they don’t fit, remind him that that’s bologna. No man “doesn’t fit” in a condom). [6] X Research source If there’s a financial hurdle, come up with a plan so that you two can pay for the protection you need together.
