If they talk to you about wanting a boyfriend/girlfriend, that might actually be a good thing. They may be signaling that they want you to make a move!
It is possible for a crush to go away over time, and if you start treating this person like a really good friend, that desire for a relationship may start to fade.
A real friendship should have some give and take. If it just generally feels like they don’t give as much as you do, that feeling is probably a sign.
Take their personality into account here. If they’re a super shy person, they may just be really bad at handling compliments/flirting.
Some people aren’t in the emotional space to form a real relationship with someone they’re interested in. This kind of hot-and-cold behavior has more to do with them than you. If your crush doesn’t respond after 2 texts, it’s a clear sign to give them some space. The ball is in their court now, and following up might make you seem desperate.
Holding eye contact and looking at you when they think you aren’t looking. Leaning in when you talk, or pointing their shoes at you when you’re in a group of people. They blush or twirl their hair when the two of you talk.
If you’ve ever gone to a party and your crush was also there, did they spend a large percentage of the party hanging out with you specifically? If so, they’ve probably got some feelings for you.
If this happens frequently and you want to test the waters, try answering their question with, “I think I’m developing feelings for someone” and look at them. If they like you, they’ll pick up on what you’re putting down.
Stay off of their social media pages. You don’t need to block them or anything like that, but don’t go out of your way to check in on what they’re doing. If your heart is just so broken that you can’t stand to see them, feel free to go no contact.
It’s totally normal to feel like this heartbreak is 100% real, even if you didn’t date. Don’t blame yourself for feeling this way.
If you don’t feel like you have anything worth pursuing right now, it’s the perfect time to find a new hobby! You might hit the park to play some pickup games with your friends, or join a club at your school. You could learn how to draw, paint, knit, or play an instrument.
If you’re really having a tough time getting over this one, consider reaching out to a therapist or counselor. There’s no shame in getting help. In fact, it takes courage.
